When Your Brass Ring Turns Green: Part 5 - Rejection, It's Not Just for Writers...

This has been a rough month and a half. First, I was dealing with the deafening sound of crickets in response to my numerous resumes/applications. Then, around the middle of April, my in-box and mail-box have been filled with “…while your credentials are impressive, you have not been selected…” responses.

I know I am in good company. The March report from the Bureau of Labor Statistics on the unemployment numbers indicated that there are 13.2 million people out of work in the US. (United States Department of Labor, (2009, April 3). The unemployment situation: March 2009. Bureau of Labor Statistics News. Retrieved April 3, 2009, from: http://www.bls.gov/news.release/pdf/empsit.pdf.)

What can a person do to get out of the mountainous pile of resumes received for each opening and in front of a hiring manager? Or, better yet, what can one do to get an interview?

All the experts will tell you that the trick to landing a job, especially in this type of job market, is using your network to get in the door at your targeted companies. Networking can take a number of forms and doesn't have to be seen as a difficult endeavor. It took me a few months to get in the swing of things, but I am finding that when I forget about the job search for a moment and focus on the opportunity to learn about a new industry, a career option, or gain a new friend, it is really not a bad way to spend some time. So far, it has not resulted in a job. I've met a lot of interesting people and some contacts that may help me at some point, but the elusive dream job is still beyond my grasp. For now.

In addition to networking like crazy, I have decided to get creative.

One of the networking groups I belong to sent out a query on behalf of a reporter for personal stories about coping with unemployment. I contacted the reporter and gave an interview, which may be published later this month. I have also registered with a radio station in my home town that is featuring an unemployed listener each week and helping that person promote themselves to prospective employers on the air and on the station’s website.

Sort of unusual tactics, and even more unusual when you factor in my nature; I tend not to seek the spotlight so this is way outside of my “comfort zone” under any circumstances. So why am I putting myself out there? My hope is that a prospective employer will see that I am able to “think outside the box” and willing to take a risk. My hope is that a prospective employer will recognize these strengths that can be hard to demonstrate on a resume. My hope is that a prospective employer will realize that they need someone like me in their organization.

Will it work? We shall see, but that is the beauty of the successful creative thinking – you never know if it will work until you try.

When your brass ring turns green: Part 4 - A day in the life…

The day I turned in my keys, etc. then walked out the door of the company I’d spent the last 11 years, three months, and two weeks working for was actually a pretty good day. I felt an incredible sense of relief and easing of the stress that I had been dealing with since hearing of the head-count reductions six months earlier. In fact, the first two weeks of unemployment were more like a vacation than anything else. I made lists of the projects I wanted to tackle. I threw myself into cleaning my home, doing little home beautiful projects, and my writing.

The depression hit me about a month in. Mid-October found me a bit on the angry and frustrated side. My house-keeping frenzy tapered off, my little projects seemed too overwhelming and I really wanted to just curl up in a ball at the back of my closet. That not being feasible, I started going back to the gym and working on my plan for finding a job. I tried not to think about what would happen if the economic situation didn’t improve. I set up a schedule to spend a certain amount of time on-line reviewing the job boards, researching companies, and learning about social networking sites. I attended meetings with a career coach and checked out the outplacement services company provided by my former employer. I applied to take the PMP exam and threw myself into studying for it. What I did not do was deal with the very real issue of depression that is a part of losing a job.

In December, I landed a temporary consulting position that was to start in January, so I put my job search on hold. This was a huge mistake. Due to the state of the economy, the start date for the position was pushed off to February and then the funding for the position was pulled. The end result was a loss of two months time in my job search. That may not sound like much, but with the number of candidates competing for the few jobs out there, this was serious. I knew I had to shake off the blues over being unemployed, my disappointment over not having a temporary job, and refocus my efforts.

Here is what I learned from this phase of being out of work:
1. Until you are actually working somewhere, do not put your job search on hold.
In the current economy, there are no guarantees. I have heard some horror stories of people showing up at the new job and being laid-off within days of starting the new position. I am learning that job search is not something that one should turn off the moment an offer is received.

2. Do not brush off the blues over being un-employed.
It isn’t unusual and there is no stigma associated with it. Talk with someone, join a support group, or make an appointment with your spiritual advisor or a therapist. If you ignore the situation, it will only get worse and can begin to affect your loved ones as well as your ability to effectively market yourself.

3. Establish and keep a routine.
A routine can help you combat the blues. It will keep you focused and give a sense of accomplishment, even if your phone isn't ringing and the rejection letters or e-mails are coming in. If you always started your day when you were employed by checking e-mail, reading the paper, or scanning the news feeds for your industry, then continue to do so.

4. Put some exercise into your day.
This is another thing that will help you combat the blues and give you a sense of accomplishment. Even if it is something small like pacing when you are making your networking phone calls or buy an exercise ball to sit on at the computer rather than a chair.

5. Find something to do every day that makes you happy.
Sounds silly but this is important to set aside some time to do something that brings you some peace and joy. It could be reading something for fun or to learn about a new topic. It could be playing with your kids, actually playing rather than watching them play. Whatever you chose, make sure it will be enjoyable. The purpose is to provide a stress-free activity so that you are refreshed and energized when you engage in your job search activities.

Hope this helps. Stay tuned – next time I will share some of the networking tips and tricks I have picked up.

When your brass ring turns green: Part 3 - Don’t let the door hit you in the…

You’ve gotten the word and you are out the door – now what?

Sometimes this means that you are packing up your office or work space and out the door immediately – with or without a severance package. Sometimes this means you have a period of time to finish up your work before a specific departure date, again with or without a severance package. Either way, the day will come when you don’t have a job to go to in the morning.
1. If the company is offering out-placement services – take advantage of the services offered. Maybe you don’t want to join a support group, or go into the out-placement office each day as though it were your job, but most out-placement services offer a variety of tools and services that will help you get your thoughts together. You owe it to yourself to at least take a look.
2. Set aside a portion of every day to devote to your job search. There are some people who advocate making your job search your new job. Personally, I see what they mean but in the current job market I find it a one-way ticket to the land of depression. How much time you spend is dependent on your personality and tolerance level. The minimum amount of time I spend each day is a half an hour and I have spent as much as a full eight hours. The point is - I devote some time every day to researching companies, networking, searching job boards, and/or applying for jobs.
3. Take care of yourself. Being out of work is not a free pass to sleep in, get involved in day-time television, or let yourself wallow in negative feelings. Tackle a project you’ve been putting off around the house. Decide to finally lose that extra 10, 20, or…pounds that you’ve been carrying around. Write that novel you’ve always wanted to write. Take a cooking class. Volunteer at your child’s school, a nursing home, a non-profit, or local pound. Find something you want to do and make the time to do it.
4. Apply for unemployment compensation if you aren’t receiving a severance package.
5. Consider taking a part-time job even if you have a severance package. If you do have a severance package – please read the fine print to be sure that taking on a part-time job won’t reduce the money you would get. Even though you won’t be making much money, it might help you stay in a positive frame of mind.
6. Make sure you have two great interview suits (with accessories) that are clean, well-mended, and ready to go at a moment’s notice.
7. Continue to build and maintain your network. Don’t be ashamed of being out of work. There isn’t a stigma connected to being downsized, so tell people when they ask what you do. You never know who might be next to you in the grocery line, at the hair or nail salon, or on the treadmill at the gym.

Stay tuned – next time I’ll start writing about how it feels to be displaced and what I’m doing about it.

When your brass ring turns green: Part 2 – Denial is not a river…

Rumors of cuts are flying – what should you do?

If conversations at the coffee pot or in the restroom are about rumored head-count reductions, chances are that one is coming - at some point - but that is all you should count on. The office grapevine can be a valuable source of information – if it is used appropriately. Consider rumor of head-counts as an early warning alert but don’t treat it as gospel, and don’t stick your head in the sand because you don’t want to think it could happen to you. Truth is – every single employee is at risk. Think you are safe because you have a folder full of glowing performance evaluations? Displacement is going to hit you harder from an emotional standpoint than the person with a less sparkling performance history. Don’t become a victim of denial.

What you should do is:
1. Follow the advice your mother gave you as a child: keep your ears open and your mouth shut. Listen to the information and try to separate the fact from the fiction.

2. Do some introspective thinking. Now is the time to think about your career. Are you really happy working for this company? It seems like a no-brainer. You work there, ergo, you want to. Not necessarily. You may just be in a rut. Same goes for your job. Is this what you want to be doing?

3. Start a skills inventory. The goal is to understand what you like to do, what you are good at doing, and what you might want to learn how to do. There are books you can borrow from your local library, or purchase at the bookstore, that can help you work through the process. If you can afford it, there are life and career coaches who you can hire to guide you in developing an inventory and administering standardized tests to identify your interests and personality type.

4. Get that professional certification, degree, or continuing education courses that you have been putting off. This is especially true if your employer has an education reimbursement program. You want your skills to be as up to date as possible before the company starts doing its internal skills assessments in anticipation of restructuring or downsizing. Even though you may not be able to finish a degree before the downsizing begins, the fact that you are enrolled may be a mark in your favor or give you a leg up on the competition.

5. Start looking at your family finances. Get a realistic picture of what you have coming in and going out each month. Don’t forget to include things that occur once a year like taxes or membership dues. If you can start eliminating the non-essentials from your budget, setting aside a cushion and/or paying off outstanding debt before you are faced with a loss of income it will minimize the stress of losing your job.

6. Build or strengthen your professional network. If you are not on a networking site like LinkedIn.com, join one and begin to build your network by inviting your co-workers, former classmates, friends, and acquaintances. Join on-line groups for your profession as well as any face-to-face professional associations.

7. Update your resume. If you can afford it, hire a professional to help you re-vamp your resume. If you can’t afford it, talk to people in your network about giving you advice.

8. Check the job boards on-line. While a small percentage of positions are actually found in this manner, it doesn’t hurt to look even though you may be only passively searching for work at this stage. Get a feel for what is out there and who the companies are in your area with openings. This will also help with item 4. By looking at job openings, you will also get a feel for how your qualifications stack up.

9. Define what the perfect job and working environment for you would be. Write down everything no matter how silly or unrealistic. Set it aside for a day or two, or three, then come back and take another look. Refine this list into the “must-have” and “nice to have” criteria. Then start researching companies to find those that match or come close to the criteria and offer the types of work you are interested in.

10. Continue to do your job to the best of your ability.

Stay tuned – next time I’ll talk about what to do when you know you are out of a job.

When your brass ring turns green: Tips and thoughts on being downsized.

Part 1 – Introduction

This is part 1 in a series of blogs on dealing with displacement. While I can’t lay claim to having the answers or even any degrees or formal training in life coaching, career counseling, or the like, what I do have is experience in the trenches. With the economic situation what it is, we all need to share our tricks and tips for getting through the rough times.

In my hometown there was one employer that everyone aspired to work for. Rumor had it a job with this company was a job for life even into the 1990’s when corporate downsizing was starting to become a normal tool for reducing operation expenses. I landed a job with this company as a fluke in the late 90s and I truly thought I had died and gone to corporate heaven. In my opinion, I had snagged the brass ring and was going to stick with the company until it was time to retire thirty-something years down the road.

Like most things that seem too good to be true, it was.

At the start of last summer, the department I worked in was eliminated and I found myself one of the displaced. Or as I preferred to think of it – I got voted off the island in a game of Survivor: Corporate Edition. There was a difficult six month transition where I still worked for the company (I called it being on Exile Island looking for that hidden immunity idol) but in reality I felt a bit like a plague carrier. People avoided talking to you for fear that displacement was a disease that could be caught from being in the same breathing space. Where before I was always busy, now I was begging for work to do and searching for a new position both internally and externally. Watching this last bastion of the old way of corporate life erode has been painful; in particular because the company truly was unique in its culture and in part because I truly believed in the ability of the company to overcome the challenges it faced.

I have been gone from the company for approximately five months now and sadly, still unemployed. Or, as my husband likes to say, gainfully un-employed since there was a nice severance package that included benefits.

Like many companies that have gone down this road, my former employer is continuing to cut its head-count and re-organize so I hear from friends still at, or recently displaced from, the company on a regular basis. Some are hoping that the economic situation isn’t as grim as the news media is painting it and that I will tell them of the largesse of job offers I am fielding. Some are looking for reassurance that there is a life after leaving the company. Some want a shoulder to cry on or an ally to commiserate with as they bemoan the unfairness of the situation.

Truth?
* The economic situation stinks and the job market is not good. I have gotten more rejection letters or e-mails than I care to dwell on.
* Yes, there is life outside of the company and frankly, it is pretty darn nice to take a break from clutching onto that corporate ladder to really consider what is or is not important in life.
* I am more than willing to listen and offer encouragement to those who are going through this.

What I will not do is engage in negative criticism of the company’s treatment of me. It does nothing and frankly – compared with some of the other stories of downsizing out on the street – I and every other employee displaced have received more consideration than the majority of companies offer these days. So this blog article is not about the evils of corporate downsizing or a swipe at my former employer. What it is intended to do is share some things I have learned and some coping techniques.

If you are interested – stay tuned. Next time I'll write about what to do when rumors are flying.

Why is reading a “romance” considered a negative by some?

I took a break from reviewing and writing the other day to read a WWII thriller that a friend recommended. “It’s not a romance like ‘that stuff’ you’ve been reading lately,” she said, handing the book to me. (Yes, there was more than a hint of snootiness in her tone on the words “that stuff.”) Truth be known, I will read just about anything and were one to try to categorize my personality by the books that grace my shelves, one would conclude I am either extremely well rounded or suffering from some degree of multiple personality disorder. (Oh, and toss in some OCD since I tend to like them organized alphabetically by author’s last name.) But I digress.

Becoming engrossed in the novel, I discovered that the underlying story was, in fact, a very sweet but tragic love story; a love story about a romance that could never end in a happily ever after with a fairly graphic – as in bordering on erotic – scene between the lovers before they went their separate ways. It was a very good story and I enjoyed reading it. When I returned the book my friend made a remark to the effect that if I was ready for some more serious reading, she had other books by this author.

I would not have classified this book as “serious reading” though. In terms of the caliber of the dialogue, depth of character development, craft of scene setting as well as action – it wasn’t any better than 85% of the romance novels I have read. Frankly, I have seen historical romances that were better researched and much more skillful in incorporating the language and flavor of the time period. So, why is it that this sort of story is deemed more “acceptable” reading or perceived as more “serious” for some than a romance?

My friend is by no means the only person in my circle of friends and family who is surprised, or even amused, by my love of a good romance novel and my having written one. I find this rather perplexing. Never mind that a significant percentage of book sales are of romance titles and the genre has exploded into a number of sub-genres since the 1980s. The romance genre includes authors considered part of the “classics” such as Jane Austen as well as virtual unknowns like – er, me. There literally is a sub-genre for everyone within this broad category. There are quite a few romance novelists who could be considered “cross-over” writers into a variety of other genres like J.R. Ward, whose Black Dagger Brotherhoodcan be found in some bookstores in the both the romance and sci-fi/fantasy aisle, or Christine Feehan’s Ghostwalkers series, which I have seen in the fiction/literature section as well as romance.

Reading, for me, is less about the story’s classification into a genre or style – it is about the sensorial experience. Granted, one has to rely on one’s imagination to conjure the sight, feel, scent, sound and taste of the settings, people, and action but isn’t that the beauty of imagination?
I wonder if people like my friend would be so quick to dismiss a romance, if they put aside their preconceived notions to actually read one. Maybe next time she asks me for a recommendation I will hand her J. R. Ward’s first novel and tell her it is something I picked up in the sci-fi/fantasy section.

How do you know when the storyline is done?

Some authors like to end their stories with all the threads thoroughly knotted and no loose ends to plague the reader with “what happened to…?” Other authors leave you hanging, not unlike season finale cliffhangers on television. Then there are the stories that can stand alone or provide the basis for furthering a series that will continue the story.

It seems to me that there is a real art to mastering this, because I am not sure a story is ever really done. Much like our own lives, the lives of our characters continue to develop unless we kill them off in our stories – and with a paranormal romance, even that is not necessarily a permanent thing. I really enjoy reading series. There is something about immersing myself in the world that an author has created that I find more appealing than a standalone story. The original Dune series is probably one of my favorites and when Frank Herbert passed away I was seriously depressed that the series was over. When his son decided to carry on with the prequels, I was ecstatic and have bought each new book as it has come out. A series lets the reader really get to know the characters and the culture from the different points of view in a way that is simply not possible in a standalone book.

Unfortunately, some authors do not seem to realize when the storyline is played out. As a novice writer, I’ve pondered how I can prevent cannibalizing my storylines or sucking the life out of them. When is it time to hit “save” and push away from the computer? The knee-jerk response is when the characters stop “talking” to you but even that isn’t a safe guideline to adhere to. As with your day to day interactions, not everyone talking is actually saying something of significance.

For now, I plan to trust my critique partners and my editor to help me strike that balance between giving just enough to keep my readers coming back for more.